Written by the UPGUYS Editorial Team
Published on June 16, 2022
Chances are, you know someone who has cheated or been cheated on. Up to 41% of people admit to cheating on their spouses.
Most people try to justify their affairs by claiming they "fell out of love" or felt sexually or emotionally neglected. Other times, a partner may be influenced by alcohol or an unexpected sexual offer.
Do the statistics of cheating change when one partner has erectile dysfunction? What can men with ED do to protect their relationships?
Here's what you need to know about erectile dysfunction and affairs.
In this article, we will talk about:
Cheating has different definitions for different people. For some, sex and kissing constitute cheating. For others, online chatrooms or pornography videos may count as infidelity.
Emotional affairs can be just as hurtful as sexual affairs. Partners need to discuss healthy boundaries for their relationship. Discuss what actions are acceptable and with whom.
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Discovering that your partner has cheated can be a low blow to your ego. Cheating on your partner can also make you feel guilty or shameful. Your whole world might feel as if it's been turned upside down.
You might experience:
Cheating is not the most common erectile dysfunction cause, but it's totally normal to have trouble getting or keeping an erection after you or your partner have cheated.
The problem is more likely emotional than physical, as your libido takes a hit when you're stressed. It can take some time before you feel confident again. Be patient with yourself.
It's no mystery how erectile dysfunction can put pressure on a relationship. If you struggle to maintain an erection, your partner may fear they are undesirable or unattractive to you. If somebody else can show them that desire, will they cheat on you?
The research says: maybe. When people feel ignored, lonely, or disconnected from their partners, they are more likely to cheat. If ED is causing you to avoid intimacy and neglect your partner's needs, they may seek emotional fulfillment outside of the relationship.
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Men with erectile dysfunction are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem. As we've discussed, low self-esteem is a major risk factor for cheating.
Society often correlates masculinity with abundant sex, so when a man isn't engaging in sex, he may feel that his manhood is at stake. Some men use sexual and emotional affairs to "prove" their masculinity to themselves or others.
Having erectile dysfunction doesn't necessarily increase the odds of your partner cheating. What matters more is how you decide to handle the condition within your relationship.
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If you suspect you may have erectile dysfunction, don't stay silent. Most couples go without sex for a staggering two and a half years before seeking medical help for ED. All that unexplained time without intimacy can add stress to a relationship.
After receiving an ED diagnosis, it's crucial to communicate with your partner. Express your concerns about making them feel wanted and attractive. Reassure them that no one is at fault for ED.
Help your partner feel involved in decisions about your sexual health. Discuss your treatment options with them, including any concerns you may have about starting erectile dysfunction treatments.
If you find out that your partner has cheated on you, only you can decide whether or not you will stay in the relationship. If cheating is a recurring problem or your partner makes you feel guilty about your ED, leaving may be advisable.
Always get help from couple's counselling sessions to work on your relationship and have a professional help you and your partner decide how to deal with your problem.
Counselling is usually prescribed alongside erectile dysfunction treatment and may help you cope after infidelity. Stress, anxiety, and low self-esteem are common erectile dysfunction causes. Therapy will help you improve your mental health, relationships, and ED.
Erectile dysfunction doesn't have to disrupt your relationship. You can do many things to maintain a healthy connection and sex life with your partner sans erection.
Don't stop having an intimate time. It can be tempting to turn to other activities instead of sex, but partners go wrong when they replace sex with TV or separate hobbies. Show interest in your partner's body and mind.
Dedicate some time every week to touching and holding each other, even if it doesn't lead to sex. Put away your devices and talk to each other without distractions. Remind your partner of how attractive they are and how happy they make you feel.
ED doesn't mean the end of sex, but you may need to redefine how you have sex. Penetration may not be possible, but you can still enjoy touching, kissing, and caressing.
Make bedroom time more fun with toys and roleplay outfits. Watch a spicy movie or play a sexy game. Sex doesn't have to be done with the goal of orgasm in mind; use sex to build intimacy and have fun with your partner.
Remember when you were first dating your sweetheart? Sometimes, you need some wine and fine dining to reignite that bond. Dress up and treat your partner to a romantic date at least once per month.
Love should be fun! Explore new restaurants, hiking trails, and parts of the city. Couples who try new things together are happier in their relationships!
Cheating or being cheated on can cause ED. If you have trouble gaining or keeping an erection after an affair, this is totally normal. Be patient with yourself and go slow during sex.
ED in relationships may make cheating more likely. However, this is mostly due to low self-esteem or lack of emotional intimacy in the relationship. Sexual cravings are not a common reason for cheating.
Talking to your partner can help. Conversations about intimacy, your ED, and treatment options will strengthen your relationship.
You can still enjoy physical intimacy without penetrative sex. Kissing, touching, and talking are essential for building intimacy. Engage with your partner and try new things!